Safety On The Job And In The Public

• Decide who at work you will inform of your situation. This should include office
or    building security. Provide a picture of your batterer if possible.

• Inform your children's school, daycare, etc., about who has permission to pick-up  
your children.

• Arrange to have an answering machine, caller ID, or a trusted friend or relative  
screen your calls if possible.
(Advocates at Arising Hope are available to assist you
with this)

• Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have someone escort you to your  
car, bus or train and walk with you until you are safely on your way.

• Use a variety of routes to go home by if possible. Think about what you would do if
something happened while going home (i.e. in your car, or the bus, etc.)

Your Safety And Emotional Health

• If you are thinking of returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an  
alternative plan with someone you trust.

• If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safest way to do so.

• Have positive thoughts about yourself and be assertive with others about your  
needs. Read books, articles, and poems to help you feel stronger.

• Decide who you can call to talk to freely and openly, and who will give you the  
support you need.

• Plan to attend a women's and/or victim's support group to gain support from others
and learn more about yourself and the relationship.

For Teens In A Violent Dating Relationship

• Decide which friend, teacher, relative or police officer you can tell.

• Call our domestic violence hot line. We can help teens too.

• Get information about restraining orders from your local police or court, or
Project Safeguard.

• Ask can assist you in finding a teen relationship support group. It will help  
you feel less alone as you learn about yourself and your relationship.

What you need to take when you leave. (Check List )

Identification
  •        Driver's License
  •        Children's birth certificates
  •        Your birth certificate
  •        Social Security Card
  •        Welfare Identification
Financial
  •        Money and/or credit cards
  •        Bank books
  •        Checkbook
Legal Papers
  •        Your restraining order
  •        Lease, rental agreement, house deed
  •        Car registration & insurance papers
  •        Medical records for you & your children
  •        School records
  •        Work permits/green cards/VISA
  •        Passport
  •        Divorce papers/ Custody papers
Other
  •        House & car keys
  •        Medications
  •        Address book
  •        Phone card
  •        Pictures of you, your children, your abuser
  •        Children's small toys
  •        Toiletries/diapers
  •        Change of clothes for you and your children


SELF-VIOLENCE, SELF-HARM AND SELF-INJURY

Many individuals who are victims of domestic violence harm themselves in an attempt
to cope with the trauma of the abusive, overwhelming and distressing situation they
find themselves in. Examples of self harm are cutting, branding, burning, picking at
the skin/scabs, hair pulling and repeatedly hitting yourself. Although this behavior can
be extremely dangerous it is NOT usually a suicide attempt. Rather it is an attempt to
express and sooth the emotional hurt and pain the victim is feeling. Generally,
individuals who self-harm are in an environment or have been in an environment
where they were not allowed to express their pain in healthy ways. Self-harm allows
the victim to express what they are feeling without words; giving them a false sense
of control and temporarily relieves the feelings of stress and anxiety. Some
alternatives to self-harm are: getting involved in a sport (e.g. running, aerobics, and
weightlifting), wear an elastic rubber band on your wrist and snapping it, hold an ice
cube on your hand, arms and legs, practice deep breathing and/or drawing on your
body with a red marker. These are only some suggestions to minimize damage and
further soft tissue injuries. It is very important that you seek help immediately.
You
can live a life free from ALL violence and our staff can assist you in getting the help
and treatment you need, please contact us today!!!
For immediate assistance call our 24 hour phone line  303-280-3180
Arising Hope        2012
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